If you find yourself having to regularly indulge in consumer self-care, it’s because you are disconnected from actual self-care, which has very little to do with “treating yourself” and a whole lot do with parenting yourself and making choices for your long-term wellness.

It is no longer using your hectic and unreasonable life as justification for self-sabotage in the form of liquor and procrastination. It is learning how to stop trying to “fix yourself” and start trying to take care of yourself… and maybe finding that taking care lovingly attends to a lot of the problems you were trying to fix in the first place.

It means being the hero of your life, not the victim. It means rewiring what you have until your everyday life isn’t something you need therapy to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good. It is giving the hell up on some goals so you can care about others. It is being honest even if that means you aren’t universally liked. It is meeting your own needs so you aren’t anxious and dependent on other people.

It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be.

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This Is What ‘Self-Care’ REALLY Means, Because It’s Not All Salt Baths And Chocolate Cake

I’ve thought about this SO MUCH AND I LOVE HOW ACCURATE THIS ARTICLE IS!  Self-care = doing things that nurture the SOUL, listening to your GUT, and following [and wholeheartedly trusting] your INTUITION.

Not immediate, gratifying, selfishness.  (not that that’s what self-care is, it can definitely take that guise at times…especially in materialistic, individualistic, American culture.)


Every year you tell yourself the same lie, “Things are going to be different.” It’s a lie because you expect change to just occur while you sit there watching. Things will never be different and you know it, until you do something about it. You need to let go of the negativity. Not everything that is broken can be fixed, and that’s okay. That’s life, sometimes things can never go back to the way they used to but once you learn to let go, you open yourself up to the happiness and the positivity you forgot still existed in the world.